Experiential Process of Healing
“It is a grave injustice to a child or adult to insist they stop crying. One can comfort a person who is crying, which enables him to relax and makes further crying unnecessary, but to humiliate a crying child is to increase his pain and augment his rigidity. We stop other people from crying because we cannot stand the sounds and movements of their bodies. It threatens our own rigidity. It induces similar feelings in ourselves which we dare not express and evokes a resonance in our bodies which we resist.”
― Alexander Lowen
Deep within you is a tender, fierce, and loving guide who wants you to experience life as an awesome journey—to mend, heal, create, expand, and come out of silence. Your story tells your truth. You are the inspiration for your recovery. Vulnerability and radical self-acceptance are the fulcra to intimacy and creative power.
I understand the spiritual dimension and psychological causes of chronic illness, co-dependency, and addiction caused by trauma. I gently awaken your psyche and help dig up what you have buried.
Like an archeologist or psychic detective, I follow energetic patterns, emotional fragments, and repetitive thinking and find clues to my true nature.
The work is based in experience- somatic, creative and spiritual
The creative process is not a thought system and cannot be accessed by analysis. It does not involve having to believe anything; in fact, it is helped by a suspension of belief that allows one to be open to the unfolding process simply. Definitions or interpretations while the actual experience is occurring limit the individual. Experiencing body sensations and feelings, active imagination, memory and images, thoughts, inner child work, creative work, and movement starts by guiding a person into the body out of the head.
The process is one of deep healing and growth
The process transcends intellectualization or any more familiar modes of inducing persons to change. The journeyer operates at a level not often reached deep in the body, psyche, and shadow where the trauma has been buried. Since the work is conducted internally, one learns about personal triggers, reactions, and defenses that come from the loop of freeze, flee, and fight when a trauma memory occurs in the present.
Individual growth takes precedence over dogma
This takes you full circle back to number one and the understanding that arguments, ideas, concepts, theology, and discussions of what is right or wrong, good or bad, do not work in the face of that, which causes blocks to growth and healing. Perfectionism, right or wrong, control, people-pleasing, and other co-dependent behaviors are the defense mechanisms a child forms to protect himself/herself from the pain of the core trauma.
This helps to break through numbness, resistance, fear, judgment, and criticism. It allows you to receive yourself with compassion, courage, and unlimited creativity and expression. Advocacy, commitment, focus, persistence, practice, and faith keep the individual on the path. Sometimes, the creative healing process seems irrational, out of control, and non-linear. It feels fearful and anxious.
This is where the deeper healing occurs; the deeper riches are hidden, and the ability to create beyond limitation and in synchronicity with your authentic truth lives. The courage to take action with compassion holds the container for the fear that will emerge to stop you. Healing through creativity is a heroine’s journey. A mystery. Going into the story and finding your life's meaning, purpose, and mission is the most creative act of living.
Acceptance
Acceptance is an active choice. It nurtures movement and growth. It brings the individual into the present, the now, with what is happening in the body, mind, and spirit. With acceptance, judgment and shame are suspended. Radical self-acceptance of all of YOU is the key to unlocking your authentic being.
Silence/Meditation
Meditation brings a person into a state of acceptance. Silence empowers the individual to go within. It enables the person to notice the inconsistencies, the defenses, the resistance, and the discomfort in what is said, done, and felt. The ability to notice oneself- without judgment establishes a relationship between the heart and soul of the creative voice. To empty and strip away the voices that repress us and say NO to our expression can be witnessed in silence. To break through the wounded self is an emotional release that allows for full, uncensored expression.
Catharsis
Denial, an emotional numbing, protects the individual from painful memories and experiences. Catharsis is the healing release of deeply held emotions that get blocked in the body and paralyze us from moving toward our dreams, expression, and intimacy. Creative catharsis, an active emotional release through voice and movement…with a nonjudgmental witness—releases the fear response into a joy response.
“Catharsis provides a model of healing which deals with those things which most disturb us and which we least want to face. The hope that catharsis offers and which the millennial vision communicates is that there is a practical way to accomplish the ancient spiritual goal of creating light out of the very substance of darkness. This process may be crucial to our physical and spiritual survival and continued ability to create.”
Work of Lamentation, Joshua Levitt, Parabola, Spring 1998
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